Rebecca Feinglos Planchard
What I learned at Grief Camp
The year was 2002, and I was heading into the first day of 8th grade fresh off the pages of the Delia’s catalog: my artfully arranged red...
Rebecca Feinglos Planchard
- Aug 12
- 17 min
What's Anticipatory Grief? A Grieve Leave Chat with Jessica Guthrie
It was an honor to sit down virtually with my friend Jessica Guthrie to talk about her feelings of anticipatory grief as she cares for...
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Rebecca Feinglos Planchard
- Jul 8
- 4 min
"So, what's next for you?"
The question I dread. The question I don't know how to answer. The question I am asked at least once a week by well-meaning people who...
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Rebecca Feinglos Planchard
- Jun 28
- 6 min
What Graceland Can Teach Us About Grieving
“Take all the time you need.” John Stamos whispered softly in my ear. I breathed in slowly, taking in the comfort of his voice. “Thank...
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Rebecca Feinglos Planchard
- Jun 8
- 4 min
This is a letter about love, but it’s not a love letter
A Letter To My 23 Year-Old Self From My 33 Year-Old Self Dear 23 Year-Old Becki, This is a letter about love, but it’s not a love letter....
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Rebecca Feinglos Planchard
- May 16
- 2 min
Life is so beautiful. Life is so hard.
Life is so beautiful. Life is so hard. Both of these things are true, even though at first glance you might think they aren't. I love...
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Rebecca Feinglos Planchard
- May 9
- 16 min
Talking with Congressional Candidate Nida Allam on Grieving and Leadership
In this interview, I speak with congressional candidate Nida Allam on grieving and leadership. Nida has experienced a variety of losses,...
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Rebecca Feinglos Planchard
- Apr 18
- 3 min
Just me, myself, and COVID
I didn't think I could do it. Just be… Alone. It's part of what kept me from leaving my toxic marriage sooner: the fear of being by...
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Rebecca Feinglos Planchard
- Apr 7
- 4 min
Making Mother's Day Meaningful for the Motherless: The Mother's Day Project
Mother’s Day for me has been angry, bitter, and resentful. For most people, Mother's Day doesn't conjure up these feelings. But for those...
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Rebecca Feinglos Planchard
- Mar 30
- 1 min
A little bit about Grieve Leave on ABC-11
Thank you to Joe Mazur and ABC-11 for sharing a little bit about my journey and about my dad. You can watch the segment below. Let's go...
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Rebecca Feinglos Planchard
- Mar 25
- 3 min
Embracing March Sadness: How a Lifetime of Duke Fandom Prepared Me for a Season of Grief
There were six and a half minutes left on the game clock when it hit me. All of us in the crowd had been on our feet, stomping, clapping,...
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Rebecca Feinglos Planchard
- Mar 21
- 6 min
Why I’m Opting Out Of Hustle Culture To Grieve
Red and blue lights spun behind me as my eyes darted to the rearview mirror. “Oh s***,” I muttered to my dogs in the back seat. I hadn’t...
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Rebecca Feinglos Planchard
- Feb 25
- 3 min
Reclaiming the Road Trip
+ 4,600 miles + 1,400 songs + 70 hours driving + 14 states + 12 days + 8 stops + 2 pups in the back + 1 person behind the wheel: me! I...
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Rebecca Feinglos Planchard
- Jan 31
- 3 min
Month 1 of Grieve Leave Down: How am I?
Coming to you live from Birmingham, England! More to come when I'll share reflections on my visit here, but it's been incredibly...
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Rebecca Feinglos Planchard
- Jan 23
- 4 min
Mama Bear Hugs
Sometimes, what you really need is just a hug and someone to tell you you're doing a good job at life. If I had to boil it down to just...
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Rebecca Feinglos Planchard
- Jan 11
- 6 min
What do you say to someone who's experiencing a loss? A how-to guide.
For folks who haven't experienced a significant loss (the death of a loved one, divorce, losing a job, a scary diagnosis), reaching out...
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Rebecca Feinglos Planchard
- Jan 3
- 4 min
Cookies and Grief
How far would you travel for a cookie? I drove outside Montreal for an hour to find one particular cookie at one particular bakery. Why?...
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Rebecca Feinglos Planchard
- Dec 26, 2021
- 3 min
Hi - I'm Rebecca! I quit my job to grieve.
So, here's the scoop: I’m Rebecca (Becki) Feinglos (married name = Planchard). I’m 32 years-old. I’m born-and-raised in Durham, North...
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