Rebecca on the Uncut & Uncensored Podcast with Caroline StanburyOct 08, 2023
Grieve Leave founder, Rebecca Feinglos recently sat down with Bravo TV’s Real Housewives of Dubai, Caroline Stanbury, on her podcast, 'Uncut & Uncensored' to talk about the complex world of grief, societal expectations on how we process our feelings associated with loss, and how there is no such thing as “getting over” our grief.
To listen to the full podcast, click HERE. Find three of our favorite quotes and breakdowns from Rebecca's powerful podcast appearance below!
“I believe my response [to my mother's death] was shaped by a societal message that implied I was doing a really good job at handling [my grief] if I was a good student, a good friend, and if I didn't show that sadness. Only then would I be a 'good kid' because of this. And for me, it took my dad dying and getting a divorce and living through a pandemic to realize; actually, the really strong thing to do is to face those emotions.”
Society expects us to deal with grief quietly and quickly. It's like there's this unwritten rule that says if we openly confront our grief, we're showing weakness when, in reality, it takes a lot of strength to do so.
It's okay (and strong) to face our grief head-on. It's all about recognizing the value of honoring our emotions to grow and become emotionally healthier individuals.
"Let's embrace the fact that loss is a part of life. You are so normal, even though the world might want to make you feel like you're crazy for feeling grief. You're not. You're so normal."
We so often forget that grief is a natural part of being human. It's a shared emotion that all of us, in our own ways, have experienced or will experience at some point.
Yet, strangely, we're often conditioned to treat grief as a kind of secret, something not to be talked about openly.
When we open up about our grief, we recognize that, deep down, we're all in this together, bound by the shared experience of grief.
"I don't think we ever actually get over grief. I don't think we do because life continues, and you change and grow, but the losses are still true. I will still have feelings of grief as different things happen in my life."
Grief isn't something we can magically "get over." As we navigate our journey, the losses we've faced continue to shape who we are and who we become.
We can still feel the weight of grief, even amidst new experiences. It's not a sign of weakness or an inability to move forward; it's a testament to the lasting impact of those losses. It's okay to sit with that grief for a while, to remember what we've lost, and, in a way, pay homage to those feelings.
Rebecca’s conversation with Caroline reminds us that even though it may feel like we are being strong by pushing past our grief, we are only doing a disservice to ourselves and our emotions. Grief is real and hard; we owe it to ourselves to recognize and process those emotions and move with our grief.
For more, be sure to listen to the full podcast HERE and feel free to leave a review sharing what this episode meant to you.
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