Rebecca Feinglos Planchard
What I learned at Grief Camp
The year was 2002, and I was heading into the first day of 8th grade fresh off the pages of the Delia’s catalog: my artfully arranged red...
Rebecca Feinglos Planchard
- Sep 11
- 4 min
A normal death
On August 31st, I lost a third of my remaining family members. My grandmother, my Nana, Beryl, died at the age of 98. This is the first...
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Rebecca Feinglos Planchard
- Aug 12
- 17 min
What's Anticipatory Grief? A Grieve Leave Chat with Jessica Guthrie
It was an honor to sit down virtually with my friend Jessica Guthrie to talk about her feelings of anticipatory grief as she cares for...
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Rebecca Feinglos Planchard
- Aug 7
- 6 min
The Great Picture Purge
They were everywhere when I ended my marriage. I couldn’t get away—they were everywhere I looked, everywhere I went… Photos. Thousands of...
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Rebecca Feinglos Planchard
- Jul 22
- 2 min
Don't Tell Me I Have Time
“Don’t rush into anything!” “You’re young! You have nothing to worry about!” “Thirty three? You have tons of time!” People like to...
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Rebecca Feinglos Planchard
- Jul 20
- 4 min
I thought I did everything right.
I blew up my carefully crafted plans for having kids when I divorced my ex. Now the end of Roe v. Wade has me grieving even more...
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Rebecca Feinglos Planchard
- Jul 12
- 2 min
No Thank You
One of the seemingly endless tasks of my time on Grieve Leave is sorting through an infinite pile of stuff: my late father's stuff, his...
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Rebecca Feinglos Planchard
- Jul 8
- 4 min
"So, what's next for you?"
The question I dread. The question I don't know how to answer. The question I am asked at least once a week by well-meaning people who...
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Rebecca Feinglos Planchard
- Jun 28
- 6 min
What Graceland Can Teach Us About Grieving
“Take all the time you need.” John Stamos whispered softly in my ear. I breathed in slowly, taking in the comfort of his voice. “Thank...
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Rebecca Feinglos Planchard
- Jun 19
- 2 min
One of the best gifts my dad ever gave me wasn't supposed to be a gift at all
One of the best gifts my dad ever gave me wasn't supposed to be a gift at all. And I didn't get it until after he died. I had 34 unheard...
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Rebecca Feinglos Planchard
- Jun 12
- 9 min
Your worth is not just what you produce
Your worth is not just what you produce. Last year I delivered this message to the graduating class at my high school alma mater. Today,...
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Rebecca Feinglos Planchard
- Jun 8
- 4 min
This is a letter about love, but it’s not a love letter
A Letter To My 23 Year-Old Self From My 33 Year-Old Self Dear 23 Year-Old Becki, This is a letter about love, but it’s not a love letter....
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Rebecca Feinglos Planchard
- May 16
- 2 min
Life is so beautiful. Life is so hard.
Life is so beautiful. Life is so hard. Both of these things are true, even though at first glance you might think they aren't. I love...
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Rebecca Feinglos Planchard
- May 12
- 2 min
I thought starting a nonprofit in honor of my late mother would heal my grief. I was wrong.
We Americans like the idea of redemption, of resilience, of picking yourself up by your boot straps. We love to hear stories of pushing...
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Rebecca Feinglos Planchard
- May 9
- 16 min
Talking with Congressional Candidate Nida Allam on Grieving and Leadership
In this interview, I speak with congressional candidate Nida Allam on grieving and leadership. Nida has experienced a variety of losses,...
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Rebecca Feinglos Planchard
- May 6
- 2 min
We Don't Talk Enough About Grieving And Childbirth
I know women who have given birth in extremely traumatic circumstances (and you do too, whether they've told you about it or not). That...
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Rebecca Feinglos Planchard
- Apr 23
- 4 min
Grieving is a Rocky Road
Sometimes grieving can be eating ice cream…and even THAT can get emotional. I've avoided talking much about my mom for most of my life...
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Rebecca Feinglos Planchard
- Apr 18
- 3 min
Just me, myself, and COVID
I didn't think I could do it. Just be… Alone. It's part of what kept me from leaving my toxic marriage sooner: the fear of being by...
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Rebecca Feinglos Planchard
- Apr 7
- 4 min
Making Mother's Day Meaningful for the Motherless: The Mother's Day Project
Mother’s Day for me has been angry, bitter, and resentful. For most people, Mother's Day doesn't conjure up these feelings. But for those...
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Rebecca Feinglos Planchard
- Apr 5
- 3 min
Basket Bawl
March Madness didn't end the way I wanted to, but I know my dad would've thought it was a heck of a game! Thank you so much to Joe Mazur...
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