Rebecca Feinglos
Death, Divorce, and Dating: My top ten tips for grievers looking for love
“Hi, I’m Becki. Both my parents are dead and I’m in the middle of a divorce. Want to grab a drink sometime?” Ok so maybe I never used...
Rebecca Feinglos
- Nov 13
- 4 min
Grieving after a job transition is real, and it’s hard—whether you quit or you were laid off
With the news of huge layoffs across the country these past couple weeks, I’ve been reflecting on the grief we feel during job...
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Rebecca Feinglos
- Nov 9
- 4 min
Breathe in, breathe out
What is anticipatory grief? Sometimes it’s like holding your breath. She exhales. She stirs in bed. A sleepy mumble, a weary cough. Then:...
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Rebecca Feinglos
- Nov 3
- 4 min
Coming Together for the Day of the Dead
No one was crying at the cemetery. On November 1st, there were hundreds of people at the Panteón General, a historic cemetery in Oaxaca...
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Rebecca Feinglos
- Oct 26
- 13 min
Get the Mourners to Speak: A Grieve Leave Chat with Rabbi Matthew Soffer
There are two places on this earth that still feel like home to me after losing both of my parents: my synagogue and Cameron Indoor...
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Rebecca Feinglos
- Oct 24
- 4 min
“We’re meant to be” and other lies I told myself about my marriage
AKA: I found an opportunity to incorporate Taylor Swift into my blog When Taylor Swift released her Folklore album at the end of July,...
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Rebecca Feinglos
- Oct 12
- 3 min
Hi, my name is...
What's my name? Well, it's complicated… I was born Rebecca Anne Feinglos. My parents named me after my paternal great grandmother who...
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Rebecca Feinglos
- Sep 26
- 7 min
What I learned at Grief Camp
The year was 2002, and I was heading into the first day of 8th grade fresh off the pages of the Delia’s catalog: my artfully arranged red...
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Rebecca Feinglos
- Sep 11
- 4 min
A normal death
On August 31st, I lost a third of my remaining family members. My grandmother, my Nana, Beryl, died at the age of 98. This is the first...
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Rebecca Feinglos
- Aug 12
- 17 min
What's Anticipatory Grief? A Grieve Leave Chat with Jessica Guthrie
It was an honor to sit down virtually with my friend Jessica Guthrie to talk about her feelings of anticipatory grief as she cares for...
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Rebecca Feinglos
- Aug 7
- 6 min
The Great Picture Purge
They were everywhere when I ended my marriage. I couldn’t get away—they were everywhere I looked, everywhere I went… Photos. Thousands of...
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Rebecca Feinglos
- Jul 22
- 2 min
Don't Tell Me I Have Time
“Don’t rush into anything!” “You’re young! You have nothing to worry about!” “Thirty three? You have tons of time!” People like to...
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Rebecca Feinglos
- Jul 20
- 4 min
I thought I did everything right.
I blew up my carefully crafted plans for having kids when I divorced my ex. Now the end of Roe v. Wade has me grieving even more...
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Rebecca Feinglos
- Jul 12
- 2 min
No Thank You
One of the seemingly endless tasks of my time on Grieve Leave is sorting through an infinite pile of stuff: my late father's stuff, his...
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Rebecca Feinglos
- Jul 8
- 4 min
"So, what's next for you?"
The question I dread. The question I don't know how to answer. The question I am asked at least once a week by well-meaning people who...
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Rebecca Feinglos
- Jun 28
- 6 min
What Graceland Can Teach Us About Grieving
“Take all the time you need.” John Stamos whispered softly in my ear. I breathed in slowly, taking in the comfort of his voice. “Thank...
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Rebecca Feinglos
- Jun 19
- 2 min
One of the best gifts my dad ever gave me wasn't supposed to be a gift at all
One of the best gifts my dad ever gave me wasn't supposed to be a gift at all. And I didn't get it until after he died. I had 34 unheard...
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Rebecca Feinglos
- Jun 12
- 9 min
Your worth is not just what you produce
Your worth is not just what you produce. Last year I delivered this message to the graduating class at my high school alma mater. Today,...
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Rebecca Feinglos
- Jun 8
- 4 min
This is a letter about love, but it’s not a love letter
A Letter To My 23 Year-Old Self From My 33 Year-Old Self Dear 23 Year-Old Becki, This is a letter about love, but it’s not a love letter....
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Rebecca Feinglos
- May 16
- 2 min
Life is so beautiful. Life is so hard.
Life is so beautiful. Life is so hard. Both of these things are true, even though at first glance you might think they aren't. I love...
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